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I live in Atlanta, which in my opinion, should have been named Atlantis. Everything looks, smells, and tastes like dinero. The glam life has taken over our generation. But honestly, everything is not what it seems and every guy can’t be “23 with a money tree” like our gentlemen Drake. He may or may not have the money to take you to a restaurant you enjoy or dip off to Miami for a weekend. And to top it off, we young professional ladies are striving for higher educations, working longer hours, and taking over positions that were generally ran and guarded by prestigious men. So what does that mean? YESSS ;) We are starting to make greater than or equal to what our fellow boy toys bring home, and in some incidents, faster as well. This may even cause us to raise the standard bar. So leads you to question, would you date someone that makes less than you? About 3/4 of you said no. But if you decided to pursue the bistro boy (nothing against you guys, you are adorable in my book) there are some things to keep in mind.

Know yourself: Is money important to you? Simple question that may follow with a complex answer. Ask it out loud to yourself. Money has a different importance to all women. You have to be real with yourself and answer honestly. Saying no when you mean yes will put you in a situation that you KNOW you didn’t want. Soraya told you about touching the red burner. But the two answers that you need “is money important to me NOW” and “HOW important is it to me in the FUTURE?”

Know his interest as well as your own: What are some things you enjoy doing? What are some things that he enjoys to do? (Getting this info can help indicate his financial level and how he likes to spend his money.) Think about if you are open to trying new things. You will never know how much you like something until you try it.

Lets be realistic: Don’t give up on the boy too soon. But think about what you will accept as real working goals… homie working part-time trying to get through school and saving ever dollar possible or homie working part- time trying to be the next LiL’ Wayne. Both of those levels can have the same value to some women… (I, personally, will go with the first one just in case you were curious.) There are amazing men out here that would give you the sun if they could, they just can’t do it at the current moment. If its something that is important to him, he will let you know from the beginning what he is trying to do and the goals he is hoping to accomplish. Every woman is not willing to wait, and that’s fine. But if you are, make sure you both have an understanding. If you have doubts, don’t hide it and settle. Because at the end, whether he makes it or not, he wants to know that you believed in him.

Don’t get sucked into the glam: Like I said before, everything is not what it seems. I’ve went on a date with a retired professional basketball player (he played for Europe, let your blood pressure settle ;]) and he was willing to do “A LOT” for me (and a lot is a sub for no further detail but its a big deal financially)… but I didn’t like him. And that was my personal lesson about love and money. I learned that honestly, for me personally, that wasn’t the most important thing. I’m glad that he was a man that had goals for himself and he obviously reached them. And that’s something that attracts me the most, a hard working man.

Keep your values close but at the same time, don’t have pity for anyone who isn’t trying to do the best for themselves. At the end of the day, its about you. Stick to your goals, regardless of what man you meet.

Asia